If there's one thing I'm sure that every new parent hears over and over again, it's the phrase, "Get used to it."
I must be honest, I am very sick of hearing this. Every time I make a comment, observation, joke, or even complaint, 9 times out of 10, someone who already has children will say it. "Get used to it."
Here are my issues with this:
1. Everyone says it. I guess each person feels they are being original and funny or cute. Maybe the first time I heard it, it was. But now that I hear it constantly, it is just annoying.
2. Getting used to anything with babies is pointless. They change every day, sometimes by the hour, so there's really no point in "getting used to it".
3. It is not helpful, and often times not true. When I first got home and was running on minimal of any sleep, people said it to me. Well I get more sleep now than I did then, so there was no need to "get used to it." Even if it's true, and the thing won't change, how unhelpful is it to tell some that? If someone is sad because their dog died, they will continue to be sad about it, but no one tells you to "get used to it".
How about, instead of this, we encourage new parents. Tell them it will get better, or in time it won't seem so bad, or even try to help them. To be fair, there are people who do this, but it seems more and more I get the former.
