This Was Not In The Brochure

Ever since giving birth to our first child, my husband and I have said to ourselves over and over again, "this was not in the brochure."

We are realistic, logical people, and we've come to determine that parenting is anything but.  A friend urged us to write down all the things that we were finding that nobody told us along the way.  Perhaps we can lessen the surprise for some others out there.

Our Story
We may be more familiar than most with "the brochure" of parenting, because we spent a lot of time reading it.  First, we were married in 2002, but put off having children until we felt we were ready emotionally and financially.  That happened in 2008.  Unfortunately, nature had different plans for us.  It took us 5 years before we welcomed out dear little one to our family.

Those 5 years were fraught with emotional heartache of wondering if we would ever have a family. Anyone who suffers infertility knows how crazy it can make you at times.  From envy and bitterness, to invasive tests and procedures, it is hard on you both.  During all this time, you dream of your baby and constantly watch other pregnant women and new moms, mentally preparing for the day you will finally get to be her.

Now, I will admit, our baby had struggles that it would be hard to prepare for, but we felt there were certain things that other parents could have warned us about, or at least put on our radar.  So here I am, hoping to prepare other new moms for the possibilities.  All babies are different, but this has been our experience, not sugar coated, just real facts and feelings.